Who Is She...The Power of the Alter Ego

Today, we’re diving into something I know will shift the way you see yourself: the alter ego. Or as I like to say… that Fly Chick version of you that’s been waiting to show up. The question is… Who is she? And are you brave enough to let her out?

You ever notice how sometimes you’re too deep in your head? You want to be bold, you want to say ‘no,’ you want to walk in that room and own it but your current self feels… stuck? That’s where the alter ego comes in. An alter ego isn’t about being fake. It’s not about pretending to be somebody you’re not. It’s about creating a version of you that already exists inside the one that doesn’t apologize for taking up space, the one who’s confident, feminine, healed, and unbothered. Think Beyoncé. She had Sasha Fierce. That alter ego gave her permission to walk on stage in heels and leotards, moving with power when off-stage she was shy. That’s the gift of an alter ego it pulls out your hidden power.

Let me be real with you. For the longest time, I was the people-pleaser. Saying yes when I meant no, dimming my light so nobody else felt uncomfortable. But then I asked myself… if I keep living like this, what version of me will my daughter, my son, my community actually meet? So I birthed my alter ego. She’s not afraid to wear red lipstick to a room full of beige. She’s not afraid to charge her worth in her business. She walks with her head high even if her knees are shaking. She’s the one who shows up when ‘Eris’ feels like hiding. That’s the beauty of the alter ego it lets you practice becoming the woman you already know you are deep down.

Let’s get practical. Here’s how you can create your own alter ego today:

1. Give her a name. Something powerful, something that makes you smile. Beyoncé had Sasha Fierce. Who’s yours?

2. Define her qualities. Is she fearless? Is she soft but firm? Is she the woman who finally says yes to herself? Write it out.

3. Create her look. Maybe it’s red lipstick, maybe it’s heels, maybe it’s gold hoops or loc jewelry. Give her a signature.

4. Step into her when you need her. Big meeting? Date night? Family drama? Instead of shrinking, ask yourself: What would my alter ego do right now?

5. Blend her into your real life. Over time, the lines blur. You won’t need to ‘pretend.’ You’ll realize — that alter ego is YOU.